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Do not allow them to grow up with a habit of making vain excuses for
not ing。 Give them plainly to understand; that so long as they are
under your roof it is the rule of your house for every one in health to
honour the Lord's house upon the Lord's day; and that you reckon the
Sabbath…breaker to be a murderer of his own soul。
See to it too; if it can be so arranged; that your children go with you
to church; and sit near you when they are there。 To go to church is one
thing; but to behave well at church is quite another。 And believe me;
there is no security for good behaviour like that of having them under
your own eye。
The minds of young people are easily drawn aside; and their attention
lost; and every possible means should be used to counteract this。 I do
not like to see them ing to church by themselves; they often get
into bad pany by the way; and so learn more evil on the Lord's day
than in all the rest of the week。 Neither do I like to see what I call
〃a young people's corner〃 in a church。 They often catch habits of
inattention and irreverence there; which it takes years to unlearn; if
ever they are unlearned at all。 What I like to see is a whole family
sitting together; old and young; side by side;men; women; and
children; serving God according to their households。
But there are some who say that it is useless to urge children to
attend means of grace; because they cannot understand them。
I would not have you listen to such reasoning。 I find no such doctrine
in the Old Testament。 When Moses goes before Pharaoh (Ex。 10:9); I
observe he says; 〃We will go with our young and with our old; with our
sons and with our daughters: for we must hold a feast unto the Lord。〃
When Joshua read the law (Josh。 8:35); I observe; 〃There was not a word
which Joshua read not before all the congregation of Israel; with the
women and the little ones; and the strangers that were conversant among
them。〃 〃 Thrice in the year;〃 says Ex。 34:23; 〃shall all your
men…children appear before the Lord God; the God of Israel。〃 And when I
turn to the New Testament; I find children mentioned there as partaking
in public acts of religion as well as in the Old。 When Paul was leaving
the disciples at Tyre for the last time; I find it said (Acts 21:5);〃
They all brought us on our way; with wives and children; till we were
out of the city: and we kneeled down on the shore; and prayed。〃
Samuel; in the days of his childhood; appears to have ministered unto
the Lord some time before he really knew Him。 〃 Samuel did not yet know
the Lord; neither was the word of the Lord yet revealed unto him〃 (1
Sam。 3:7)。 The Apostles themselves do not seem to have understood all
that our Lord said at the time that it was spoken: 〃These things
understood not His disciples at the first: but when Jesus was
glorified; then remembered they that these things were written of Him〃
(John 12:16)。
Parents; fort your minds with these examples。 Be not cast down
because your children see not the full value of the means of grace now。
Only train them up to a habit of regular attendance。 Set it before
their minds as a high; holy; and solemn duty; and believe me; the day
will very likely e when they will bless you for your deed。
VIII。 Train them to a habit of faith。
I mean by this; you should train them up to believe what you say。 You
should try to make them feel confidence in your judgment; and respect
your opinions; as better than their own。 You should accustom them to
think that; when you say a thing is bad for them; it must be bad; and
when you say it is good for them; it must be good; that your knowledge;
in short; is better than their own; and that they may rely implicitly
on your word。 Teach them to feel that what they know not now; they will
probably know hereafter; and to be satisfied there is a reason and a
needs…be for everything you require them to do。
Who indeed can describe the blessedness of a real spirit of faith? Or
rather; who can tell the misery that unbelief has brought upon the
world? Unbelief made Eve eat the forbidden fruit;she doubted the
truth of God's word: 〃Ye shall surely die。〃 Unbelief made the old world
reject Noah's warning; and so perish in sin。 Unbelief kept Israel in
the wilderness;it was the bar that kept them from entering the
promised land。 Unbelief made the Jews crucify the Lord of glow;…they
believed not the voice of Moses and the prophets; though read to them
every day。 And unbelief is the reigning sin of man's heart down to this
very hour;unbelief in God's promises; unbelief in God's
threatenings;unbelief in our own sinfulness;… unbelief in our own
danger;unbelief in everything that runs counter to the pride and
worldliness of our evil hearts。 Reader; you train your children to
little purpose if you do not train them to a habit of implicit
faith;faith in their parents' word; confidence that what their
parents say must be right。
I have heard it said by some; that you should require nothing of
children which they cannot understand: that you should explain and give
a reason for everything you desire them to do。 I warn you solemnly
against such a notion。 I tell you plainly; I think it an unsound and
rotten principle。 No doubt it is absurd to make a mystery of everything
you do; and there are many things which it is well to explain to
children; in order that they may see that they are reasonable and wise。
But to bring them up with the idea that they must take nothing on
trust; that they; with their weak and imperfect understandings; must
have the 〃why〃 and the 〃 wherefore〃 made clear to them at every… step
they take;this is indeed a fearful mistake; and likely to have the
worst effect on their minds。
Reason with your child if you are so disposed; at certain times; but
never forget to keep him in mind (if you really love him) that he is
but a child after all;that he thinks as a child; he understands as a
child; and therefore must not expect to know the reason of everything
at once。
Set before him the example of Isaac; in the day when Abraham took him
to offer him on Mount Moriah (Gen。 22。)。 He asked his father that
single question; 〃Where is the lamb for a burnt…offering?〃 and he got
no answer but this; 〃God will provide Himself a lamb。〃 How; or where;
or whence; or in what manner; or by what means;all this Isaac was not
told; but the answer was enough。 He believed that it would be well;
because his father said so; and he was content。
Tell your children; too; that we must all be learners in our
beginnings;that there is an alphabet to be mastered in every kind of
knowledge; that the best horse in the world had need once to be
broken;that a day will e when they 。will see the wisdom of all
your training。 But in the meantime if you say a thing is right; it must
be enough for them;they must believe you; and be content。
Parents; if any point in training is important; it is this。 I charge
you by the affection you have to your children; use every means to
train them up to a habit of faith。
IX。 Train; them to a habit of obedience。
This is an object which it is worth any labour to attain。 No habit; I
suspect; has such an influence over our lives as this。 Parents;
determine to make your children obey you; though it may cost you much
trouble; and cost them many tears。 Let there be no questioning; and
reasoning; and disputing; and delaying; and answering again。 When you
give them a mand; let them see plainly that you will have it done。
Obedience is the only reality。 It is faith visible; faith acting; and
faith incarnate。 It is the test of real discipleship among the Lord's
people。 〃Ye are My friends if ye do whatsoever I mand you〃 (John
15:14)。 It ought to be the mark of well…trained children; that they do
whatsoever their parents mand them。 Where; indeed; is the honour
which the fifth mandment enjoins; if fathers and mothers are not
obeyed cheerfully; willingly; and at once?
Early obedience has all Scripture on its side。 It is in Abraham's
praise; not merely he will train; his family; but 〃he will mand his
children; and his household after him〃 (Gen。 18:19)。 It is said of the
Lord Jesus Christ Himself; that when 〃He was young He was subject to
Mary and Joseph〃 (Luke 2:51)。 Observe how implicitly Joseph obeyed the
order of his father Jacob (Gen。 37:13)。 See how Isaiah speaks of it as
an evil thing; when 〃the child shall behave himself proudly against the
ancient〃 (Isa。 3:5)。 Mark how the Apostle Paul names disobedience to
parents as one of the bad signs of the latter days (2 Tim。 3:2)。 Mark
how he singles out this grace of requiring obedience as one that should
adorn a Christian minister: 〃a bishop must be one that ruleth well his
own house; having his children in subjection with all gravity。〃 And
again; 〃Let the deacons