the marriage contract-第22节
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lead a brilliant life in Paris; and I could not live with you suitably
without spending the little that remains to me。 Whereas; if I go to
Lanstrac; I can take care of your property there and restore my
fortune by economy。〃
〃You; mamma! YOU practise economy!〃 cried Natalie; laughing。 〃Don't
begin to be a grandmother yet。 What! do you mean to leave me for such
reasons as those? Dear mother; Paul may seem to you a trifle stupid;
but he is not one atom selfish or grasping。〃
〃Ah!〃 replied Madame Evangelista; in a tone of voice big with
suggestions which made the girl's heart throb; 〃those discussions
about the contract have made me distrustful。 I have my doubts about
himBut don't be troubled; dear child;〃 she added; taking her
daughter by the neck and kissing her。 〃I will not leave you long
alone。 Whenever my return can take place without making difficulty
between you; whenever Paul can rightly judge me; we will begin once
more our happy little life; our evening confidences〃
〃Oh! mother; how can you think of living without your Natalie?〃
〃Because; dear angel; I shall live for her。 My mother's heart will be
satisfied in the thought that I contribute; as I ought; to your future
happiness。〃
〃But; my dear; adorable mother; must I be alone with Paul; here; now;
all at once? What will become of me? what will happen? what must I do?
what must I not do?〃
〃Poor child! do you think that I would utterly abandon you to your
first battle? We will write to each other three times a week like
lovers。 We shall thus be close to each other's hearts incessantly。
Nothing can happen to you that I shall not know; and I can save you
from all misfortune。 Besides; it would be too ridiculous if I never
went to see you; it would seem to show dislike or disrespect to your
husband; I will always spend a month or two every year with you in
Paris。〃
〃Alone; already alone; and with him!〃 cried Natalie in terror;
interrupting her mother。
〃But you wish to be his wife?〃
〃Yes; I wish it。 But tell me how I should behave;you; who did what
you pleased with my father。 You know the way; I'll obey you blindly。〃
Madame Evangelista kissed her daughter's forehead。 She had willed and
awaited this request。
〃Child; my counsels must adept themselves to circumstances。 All men
are not alike。 The lion and the frog are not more unlike than one man
compared with another;morally; I mean。 Do I know to…day what will
happen to you to…morrow? No; therefore I can only give you general
advice upon the whole tenor of your conduct。〃
〃Dear mother; tell me; quick; all that you know yourself。〃
〃In the first place; my dear child; the cause of the failure of
married women who desire to keep their husbands' heartsand;〃 she
said; making a parenthesis; 〃to keep their hearts and rule them is one
and the same thingWell; the principle cause of conjugal disunion is
to be found in perpetual intercourse; which never existed in the olden
time; but which has been introduced into this country of late years
with the mania for family。 Since the Revolution the manners and
customs of the bourgeois have invaded the homes of the aristocracy。
This misfortune is due to one of their writers; Rousseau; an infamous
heretic; whose ideas were all anti…social and who pretended; I don't
know how; to justify the most senseless things。 He declared that all
women had the same rights and the same faculties; that living in a
state of society we ought; nevertheless; to obey natureas if the
wife of a Spanish grandee; as if you or I had anything in common with
the women of the people! Since then; well…bred women have suckled
their children; have educated their daughters; and stayed in their own
homes。 Life has become so involved that happiness is almost
impossible;for a perfect harmony between natures such as that which
has made you and me live as two friends is an exception。 Perpetual
contact is as dangerous for parents and children as it is for husband
and wife。 There are few souls in which love survives this fatal
omnipresence。 Therefore; I say; erect between yourself and Paul the
barriers of society; go to balls and operas; go out in the morning;
dine out in the evenings; pay visits constantly; and grant but little
of your time to your husband。 By this means you will always keep your
value to him。 When two beings bound together for life have nothing to
live upon but sentiment; its resources are soon exhausted;
indifference; satiety; and disgust succeed。 When sentiment has
withered what will become of you? Remember; affection once
extinguished can lead to nothing but indifference or contempt。 Be ever
young and ever new to him。 He may weary you;that often happens;but
you must never weary him。 The faculty of being bored without showing
it is a condition of all species of power。 You cannot diversify
happiness by the cares of property or the occupations of a family。 If
you do not make your husband share your social interests; if you do
not keep him amused you will fall into a dismal apathy。 Then begins
the SPLEEN of love。 But a man will always love the woman who amuses
him and keeps him happy。 To give happiness and to receive it are two
lines of feminine conduct which are separated by a gulf。〃
〃Dear mother; I am listening to you; but I don't understand one word
you say。〃
〃If you love Paul to the extent of doing all he asks of you; if you
make your happiness depend on him; all is over with your future life;
you will never be mistress of your home; and the best precepts in the
world will do you no good。〃
〃That is plainer; but I see the rule without knowing how to apply it;〃
said Natalie; laughing。 〃I have the theory; the practice will come。〃
〃My poor Ninie;〃 replied the mother; who dropped an honest tear at the
thought of her daughter's marriage; 〃things will happen to teach it to
youAnd;〃 she continued; after a pause; during which the mother and
daughter held each other closely embraced in the truest sympathy;
〃remember this; my Natalie: we all have our destiny as women; just as
men have their vocation as men。 A woman is born to be a woman of the
world and a charming hostess; as a man is born to be a general or a
poet。 Your vocation is to please。 Your education has formed you for
society。 In these days women should be educated for the salon as they
once were for the gynoecium。 You were not born to be the mother of a
family or the steward of a household。 If you have children; I hope
they will not come to spoil your figure on the morrow of your
marriage; nothing is so bourgeois as to have a child at once。 If you
have them two or three years after your marriage; well and good;
governesses and tutors will bring them up。 YOU are to be the lady; the
great lady; who represents the luxury and the pleasure of the house。
But remember one thinglet your superiority be visible in those
things only which flatter a man's self…love; hide the superiority you
must also acquire over him in great things。〃
〃But you frighten me; mamma;〃 cried Natalie。 〃How can I remember all
these precepts? How shall I ever manage; I; such a child; and so
heedless; to reflect and calculate before I act?〃
〃But; my dear little girl; I am telling you to…day that which you must
surely learn later; buying your experience by fatal faults and errors
of conduct which will cause you bitter regrets and embarrass your
whole life。〃
〃But how must I begin?〃 asked Natalie; artlessly。
〃Instinct will guide you;〃 replied her mother。 〃At this moment Paul
desires you more than he loves you; for love born of desires is a
hope; the love that succeeds their satisfaction is the reality。 There;
my dear; is the question; there lies your power。 What woman is not
loved before marriage? Be so on the morrow and you shall remain so
always。 Paul is a weak man who is easily trained to habit。 If he
yields to you once he will yield always。 A woman ardently desired can
ask all things; do not commit the folly of many women who do not see
the importance of the first hours of their sway;that of wasting your
power on trifles; on silly things with no result。 Use the empire your
husband's first emotions give you to accustom him to obedience。 And
when you make him yield; choose that it be on some unreasonable point;
so as to test the measure of your power by the measure of his
concession。 What victory would there be in making him agree to a
reasonable thing? Would that be obeying you? We must always; as the
Castilian proverb says; take the bull by the horns; when a bull has
once seen the inutility of his defence and of his strength he is
beaten。 When your husband does a foolish thing for you; you can govern
him。〃
〃Why so?〃
〃Because; my child; marriage lasts a lifetime; and a husband is not a
man like other men。 Therefore; never commit the folly of giving
yourself into his power in everything。 Keep up a constant reserve in