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our　victory；　not　to　hurt　them；　but　to　create　you。　

69。　Try　your　mother　down。　
We　first　learn　how　to　explain　to　world　to　ourselves　from　our　parents；　more　especially　our　mothers。　This　can　be　a　disaster　if　the　child　has　a　pessimistic　mother。　The　disaster　can　only　be　temporary。　Optimism　can　be　learned　at　any　age。　It's　not　self　motivating　to　blame　mom　if　your　a　pessimists。　Blaming　others　is　never　self　motivating　because　it　strengthens　the　belief　that　your　life　is　being　influenced　by　forces　outside　of　yourself。　Love　your　mom。　But　change　yourself。　

70。　Face　the　sun。　
〃When　you　face　the　sun；　the　shadows　always　fall　behind　you〃　…　Helen　Keller。　This　is　her　way　of　remending　optimistic　thinking。　When　you　look　at　what　you　face　grows　in　your　life；　what　you　ignore　falls　behind　you。　If　you　turn　and　only　look　at　the　shadows；　they　bee　your　life。　

71。　Look　inside。　
Most　of　us　wait　to　discover　who　we　are　from　the　impressions　we　get　from　other　people。　〃Oh　do　you　think　I'm　like　that。。。〃　If　we　get　positive　feedback；　that's　great。　It　helps　build　us　up。　But　ideally；　your　journey　should　be　internal。　Travel　deeper　and　deeper　inside　to　find　out　your　own　potential。　Your　potential　is　your　true　identity。　It　only　waits　for　self　motivation　to　e　alive。　

72。　Go　to　war。　*　
Research　shows　during　times　for　war　suicide　rates　go　down。　We　don't　to　wait　for　something　tragic。　We　don't　have　wait　until　we　go　to　war　to　attack　us　from　without。　We　can　get　the　same　vitality　by　challenging　ourselves　from　within。　〃All　battles　are　first　won　or　lost　in　the　mind。〃　Joan　of　Ark。　Ask　yourself　what　would　you　do　if　you　had　only　one　year　to　live。　How　would　I　live　differently？　What　exactly　would　I　do？　This　exercise　can　reveal　skills　inside　of　you　that　your　not　using　today。　

73。　Make　small　change。　
When　practicing　self　motivation；　it　can　be　mon　that　you　get　a　lot　of　different　type　of　mood　swings。　Sometimes　you'll　be　on　a　real　high　on　the　idea　of　who　you　can　be　and　set　up　to　change　yourself　overnight。　Then　your　old　habits　will　pull　you　back　to　who　you　use　to　be　and　then　you　bee　demoralized。　You　have　eventually　accept　the　idea　that　great　things　are　created　slowly。　Great　painting；　great　building。　So　why　can't　you　see　that　great　people　are　also　created　slowly。　So　if　you　willing　to　see　yourself　as　a　masterpiece　in　progress；　then　you'll　love　small　changes。　You'll　be　excited　by　a　tiny　thing　you　did　differently　today。　You　should　celebrate　because　your　moving　in　the　direction　of　self　creation。　

74。　Do　something　badly。　****　
Sometimes　we　don't　do　things　because　we　not　sure　we　cannot　do　them　well。　We　feel　that　we　are　not　〃in　the　mood〃　or　our　energy　levels　is　not　are　the　right　state　to　do　that　task　that　we　have。　So　we　put　it　off　or　wait　for　inspiration　to　arrive。　We're　so　afraid　to　do　things　until　we're　sure　we　can　do　them　well；　we　end　up　not　doing　anything。　This　is　the　source　of　all　writers　block　btw。　〃If　a　thing　is　worth　doing；　it's　worth　doing　badly。〃　If　your　not　motivated　to　do　something　you　know　you　need　to　do；　just　decide　to　do　it　badly。　Add　a　little　self　deprecated　humor。　Be　edic　about　what　your　doing。　And　then　enjoy　what　happens　to　you　once　your　in　the　process。　

75。　Be　a　visioneer。　
The　principle　of　〃visioneering。〃　You　cannot　do　anything　you　cannot　picture　yourself　doing。　Visioneering　is　just　another　word　for　picturing　yourself。　Once　you　make　the　picturing　process　conscious　and　deliberate；　you　begin　to　create　the　self　you　want　to　be。　

76。　Shine　your　light。　****　
Taking　things　lightly　was　the　most　spiritually　advanced　thing　you　can　do　to　improve　your　effectiveness　in　life。　After　all；　it's　God's　angels　that　take　themselves　so　lightly　that　they　are　able　to　fly。　And　if　his　angels　takes　themselves　so　lightly；　imagine　how　lightly　he　takes　himself。　Your　own　motivational　level　will　always　be　lifted　with　humor。　Anytime　your　stuck；　ask　yourself　to　take　things　lightly。　Ask　yourself　to　look　for　some　funny　solutions。　Laughter　will　destroy　all　limits　to　your　thinking。　When　your　laughing；　your　open　to　anything。　

77。　Be　a　list　writer。　****　
Never　hesitate　to　site　down　and　make　lists。　The　more　you　write　down　what　it　is　that　you　want；　the　more　you　can　dictate　your　future。　A　goal　gains　power　when　you　write　it　down　and　it　gains　MORE　POWER　every　time　you　write　it　down。　Now　we're　always　looking　for　motivation　in　what　others　have　written。　But　if　you　bee　a　creative　list　maker；　you'll　learn　how　to　motivate　yourself　by　what　you've　written。　

78。　Be　the　change。　****　
Don't　try　to　change　other　people。　It　doesn't　work。　You'll　waste　your　life　trying。　We　talk　to　our　children　for　hours　in　what　we　think　they　should　do　with　their　life。　But　children　don't　change　from　what　we　say；　they　learn　from　what　we　do。　By　being　what　you　want　them　to　be；　you　can　lead　by　inspiration。　What　you　tell　people　to　do　often　goes　right　by　them。　Who　you　are；　doesn't。　The　change　in　you　is　contagious。　When　you　yourself　change；　watch　how　the　people　around　you　change。　

79。　See　the　gold。　****　
In　every　circumstance；　we　can　look　for　the　gold　or　we　can　look　for　the　filth。　And　what　we　look　for；　we'll　find。　Opportunities　are　only　available　to　a　careful　observer。　Your　opportunities　will　multiple　when　and　only　when　you　choose　to　see　them。　

80。　Simplify。　
Why　run　a　simple　set　of　basic　plays？　It's　hard　to　be　aggressive　when　your　confused。　When　you　simplify　your　life；　it　gathers　energy。　

81。　Pin　life　down。　
Countering　moves　is　still　countering。　Enter　a　wrestling　match　with　a　plan。　A　serious　of　moves　thought　out　ahead　of　time。　A　goal　without　an　action　plan　is　a　day　dream。　Before　any　adventure；　take　time　to　plan。　Let　life　respond　to　you。　If　your　making　all　the　first　moves　you'll　be　surprised　on　how　often　you　can　〃pin　life　down。〃　

82。　Strengthen　your　purpose。　*　
Energy　es　from　purpose。　If　the　left　side　of　the　brain　tells　the　right　side　there's　a　sufficient　crisis；　the　right　side　sends　energy　and　sometimes　super　human　energy。　That's　why　there's　a　difference　from　people　who　set　and　achieve　goals　all　day　and　people　who　just　do　whatever　they　feel　like　doing。　The　first　person；　there's　always　added　purpose。　To　the　other　person；　there　is　boredom　and　confusion。　The　two　greatest　robbers　of　energy。　Because　we　are　totally　responsible　for　our　own　sense　of　purpose；　that　also　means　we're　totally　responsible　for　the　energy　of　our　lives。　

83。　Go　on　a　news　fast。　
〃New　fast。〃　Stop　watching　the　news　for　a　few　weeks。　If　you　go　for　a　period　of　time　without　listening　to　or　reading　the　news；　you'll　notice　an　optimism　and　upswing　upon　your　life　and　energy。　Your　mind　is　yours　to　fill　with　whatever　you　want。　The　more　you　accept　the　responsibility　of　filling　it；　the　easier　it　will　be　to　build　an　optimistic　and　effective　mind　set。　

84。　Choose　an　action。　
When　you　find　yourself　worrying　about　something；　always　ask　yourself　an　〃action　question。〃　〃What　can　I　do　about　this　right　now？〃　And　then　do　it。　Any　small　thing。　Anything　that　worries　you　should　be　acted　on。　Not　just　thought　about。　Even　small　actions　that　starts　to　chase　away　your　fears　and　put　you　back　in　control　to　what　you　want。　

85。　Be　a　thinker。　
There　are　2　kinds　of　workers；　the　whiners　and　the　thinkers。　The　whiners　are　very　smart；　dedicated　employees　that　worked　long　hours；　but　when　they　e　into　the　presidents　office　it　was　always　to　plain。　They　are　great　at　finding　fault　with　other　managers　and　pointing　out　what's　wrong　with　the　system。　But　they　drain　the　president　because　they　are　so　negative　and　it's　hard　to　make　them　feel　better。　Then　after　that；　the　president　is　depressed。　The　thinkers　however　had　a　different　way　of　ing　to　the　office　with　problems。　The　thinkers　e　to　the　president　with　ideas。　They　see　the　same　problems　as　the　whiners　but　they　already　thought　about　possible　solution。　When　your　mitted　to　self　motivation；　you'll　follow　into　the　realm　of　the　thinker　naturally。　You'll　be　more　valuable　to　your　pany　and　yourself。　

86。　Choose　enjoyment。　****　
There's　a　huge　difference　between　〃pleasure〃　and　〃enjoyment。〃　And　when　we're　absolutely　clear　about　the　difference；　we　can　grow　faster　in　being　who　we　want　to　be。　What　we　do　for　pleasure；　for　example；　routine　sex；　eating；　drinking；　all　kind　of　short　term　stuff；　that's　different　than　what　we　do　for　enjoyment。　Enjoyment　always　involve　a　use　of　a　skill　and　it　always　involves　facing　a　challenge。　Things　like　sailing；　gardening；　golfing；　any　kind　of　activity　like　that　involving　skills　meeting　a　challenge　results　in　enjoyment。　People　who　get　clear　on　the　difference　begins　to　know　how　to　consciously　put　more　enjoyment　into　their　lives。　

87。　Read　mystery　novels。　
The　person　with　the　highest　IQ　measured　remends　reading　mystery　novels。　They　are　brain　builders。　The　brain　can　be　built　as　surely　and　quickly　as　the　muscles　in　the　body。　So　the　next　time　curling　up　to　a　good　mystery；　don't　feel　guilty。　It　might　be　the　most　productive　thing　you　done　all　day。　

88。　Express　your　thoughts。　
Go　ahead　and　feel　your　feelings。　But　when　it's　time　to　talk；　be　thoughtful　and　express　your　thoughts。　

89。　Use　your　weaknesses。　
Make　a　list　of　your　strengths　and　weaknesses　on　separate　pieces　of　paper。　Place　the　list　of　strength　somewhere　where　you'll　see　it　again　because　just　looking　at　it　will　pick　you　up。　Now　look　at　your　list　of　so　called　weakness