高等意识手册-第32节

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feelings　that　await　you　when　sex　is　experienced　from　higher　levels　of
consciousness。
Sex　at　the　second　level　of　consciousness　leaves　you　vulnerable　in　many　ways。
You　may　pare　tonight’s　experience　with　the　high　feelings　of　a　previous
night；　and　this　parison　may　lead　you　to　feel　that　what　happened　tonight
was　not　quite　“enough。”　You　are　vulnerable　to　disappointment　if　your　partner
is　tired　or　for　some　reason　is　not　interested。　If　the　experience　is　particularly
great；　your　consciousness　will　begin　to　wonder　how　soon　you　can　repeat　it　
or　whether　you　can　repeat　it　at　all。
This　grasping；　manipulative　focus　of　consciousness　keeps　you　from　being
pletely　satisfied　here　and　now。　It　keeps　you　on　a　roller…coaster　of
pleasure　and　disappointment。　Our　habit　of　anticipating　the　future　rather　than
letting　ourselves　pletely　experience　the　here…and…now　enjoyment　of　life
can　enormously　detract　from　the　experience　of　sex。　For　example；　a　man　may
spend　an　evening　dining　and　talking　with　a　woman　with　a　large　proportion　of
his　consciousness　involved　in　his　anticipation　of　going　to　bed　with　her　later
that　night。　He　is　bodily　with　her；　but　a　large　part　of　his　consciousness　is
drained　away　by　his　preoccupation　with　the　future。　If　the　person　he　is　with　is
perceptive　（and　not　caught　in　the　same　game）；　she　will　be　aware　that　there　is
something　lacking　in　the　vividness　and　oneness　of　their　here…and…now
interactions。
Let　us　suppose　his　plan　works　out；　and　they　are　now　in　bed　kissing　each
other。　The　man’s　consciousness　（if　he　has　not　learned　how　to　be　in　the　here
and　now）　will　not　be　totally　enjoying　the　experience　of　kissing。　He　will　be
anticipating　the　next　step　when　perhaps　his　hands　will　be　caressing　here
breasts。　Once　he　is　caressing　her　breasts；　he　is　very　likely　to　miss　the
“enoughness”　and　delightfulness　of　that　experience。　He　will　be　anticipating
how　nice　it　will　be　when　his　hands　begin　to　explore　yet　more　intimate　regions
that　await　him　below　her　hips。　And　then　when　he　is　next　touching　and　feeling
her　labial　and　vaginal　areas；　he　will　still　not　be　here　now。　He　will　still　be
unable　to　savor　and　pletely　appreciate　the　nowness　of　the　experience。
His　consciousness　will　then　leap　forward　to　anticipate　how　nice　it　will　be
when　his　penis　is　inside　of　her。　And　even　after　that　happens；　he　may　still　not
be　in　the　here　and　now！　He　will　be　anticipating　the　moments　of　climax。　It　is
only　when　he　finally　reaches　orgasm　that　he　will　be　pletely　here　now。　For
the　moments　of　orgasm　are　so　consciousness…dominating　that　he　will　probably
not　be　able　to　place　his　consciousness　anywhere　else。　It　is　one　of　the　few
times　in　his　life　when　he　can　experience　being　pletely　in　the　here　and
now！
When　your　consciousness　is　dominated　by　your　desire　for　the　intense
sensations　of　sex；　you　will　be　depriving　yourself　of　a　large　part　of　the　beauty
and　loveliness　that　will　be　yours　when　you　can　enjoy　sex　at　the　Fourth　Center
of　Consciousness。　When　your　consciousness　is　operating　at　the　Fourth　Level；
you　will　begin　to　enjoy　every　second　as　a　fulfilling　whole　in　itself。　Whatever
happens　as　the　flow　of　love　unfolds　is　enough。　Your　mind　is　not　concerned
with　what　will　be　happening　a　few　seconds　or　a　few　minutes　from　now。
Hence；　it　is　not　grasping。　It　is　not　manipulating。　It　is　not　striving。　It　is　not
paring。　It　is　not　trying　to　make　anything　happen。　It　is　just　flowing
pletely　with　your　feelings　and　the　feelings　of　your　partner　　and　the
nowness　of　the　environment　around　you。
If　you　would　like　to　know　whether　your　consciousness　is　dominated　by　sex；
you　might　apply　the　following　test。　You　can　probably　do　this　in　your　head。
Supposed　you　have　been　in　bed　with　your　partner　for　a　half…hour　and　are
getting　near　the　point　where　intercourse　may　begin。　Then　suppose　your　best
friend　knocks　on　the　door。　He　has　a　serious　problem　and　it　is　urgent　that　he
see　you　immediately。　Can　you　without　disappointment　　without　any
grasping　at　the　previous　experience　　let　your　consciousness　flow　to　this　new
here…and…now　situation　in　your　life？　Can　you　turn　to　this　new　situation
without　irritability；　anger；　or　disappointment　of　any　sort？　Can　you　rechannel
that　energy　that　was　created　by　lovemaking　into　helping　your　friend？　If　your
consciousness　can　flow　from　one　here…and…now　experience　to　the　next　hereand…
now　experience；　you　are　peacefully　and　beautifully　flowing　in　the　river　of
your　life。
An　individual　who　is　hung　up　on　the　second　level　of　consciousness　will
irritate　himself；　his　sexual　partner；　and　his　friend　in　the　situation　described
above。　Once　he　has　talked　with　his　friend　and　done　whatever　is　necessary；
his　consciousness　will　still　be　clouded　by　resentment　toward　what　he
perceives　as　an　intrusion。　When　he　then　returns　to　be　with　his　lover；　his
consciousness　will　be　preoccupied　with　the　immediate　past。　Instead　of
flowingly　enjoying　the　here　and　now　when　uninterrupted　sex　is　possible；　his
preoccupation　with　the　past　may　keep　him　from　doing　that　which　he　most
wants　to　do！
An　individual　who　is　hung　up　on　the　second　level　of　consciousness　can　never
live　pletely　in　the　here　and　now。　For　example；　a　woman　who　is　addicted
at　the　second　level　will　scan　everyone　she　sees　as　a　sexual　partner。　Her
response　to　all　of　the　beautiful　individuals　who　flow　into　her　life　will　be
limited　by　her　analysis　of　whether　this　person　would　fit　the　pattern　in　her　head
that　she　has　for　an　exciting　bed　partner。　Instead　of　reacting　to　the　whole
person　in　front　of　her；　she　is　only　tuning　in　to　a　very　small　slice　of　what　is
available。　She　is　depriving　herself　of　the　broad　spectrum　that　life　is　offering
her。　She　is　disregarding　the　Second　Pathway　by　creating　an　illusory　version
of　the　people　around　her。　It　is　the　opposite　of　the　openness　which　brings　the
miracle　of　“enoughness”　into　one’s　life。
A　person　whose　consciousness　is　dominated　by　sex　may　be　led　to　purchase
automobiles；　homes；　clothes；　boats；　and　most　of　the　things　in　his　or　her　life　on
a　basis　of　their　supposed　contribution　to　future　sexual　experiences。　The
things　purchased　may　be　too　costly；　not　wear　well；　or　may　have　many　other
disadvantages。　If　they　are　too　expensive；　they　will　put　a　person　in　debt　or
cause　him　to　focus　more　of　his　consciousness　on　earning　money。　This　has　the
repercussion　of　taking　time　and　energy　away　from　sexual　activities　that　one
tells　oneself　will　bring　pleasure。　It　is　thus　with　all　addictive　patterns　which
keep　us　on　the　self…defeating　pursuit　of　illusory　concepts　of　fulfillment　and
happiness。
What　do　we　do　when　we　discover　that　a　large　part　of　our　consciousness　is
trapped　on　the　second　level？　The　Third　Method　for　consciousness　growth；
explained　in　Chapter　13；　can　be　helpful　in　enabling　us　to　reprogram　this
addiction。　Sexual　addictions　can　gradually　wear　away　when　we　bee
consciously　aware　of　the　resultant　disadvantages　and　suffering　that　an
addiction　causes。　Our　growing　insight　reveals　the　penalties　we　are
unnecessarily　paying：　the　way　we　alienate　people　we　would　like　to　love
because　of　the　intrusiveness　of　our　subject…object　manipulation；　the
disappointment；　irritation；　and　anger　that　a　sexual　addiction　can　trigger；　the
drain　on　our　pocketbooks；　the　anxiety　that　we　experience　if　we　have　a　model
for　always　reaching　orgasm；　etc。
The　addiction　to　sex　can　be　so　powerful　that　it　may　help　if　you　stop　your
usual　sexual　dance　for　a　period　of　time　in　order　to　give　you　a　chance　to　permit
other　patterns　to　emerge。　For　example；　if　you　definitely　resolve　not　to　have
sex　for　the　next　three　months；　you　may　help　your　consciousness　to　get　free　of
domination　by　sex　thoughts　and　addictions。　This　can　liberate　your
consciousness　to　tune　in　to　him　or　her　without　any　overtones　of　“Let’s　go　to
bed　tonight。”　This　may　broaden　your　activities　together。　It　can　increase　your
openness　to　more　fully　experiencing　the　person　as　a　human　being。　You　will
begin　to　free　yourself　from　the　diminished　awareness　that　occurs　when　your
consciousness　is　focused　on　sexual　interactions。
During　this　temporary　moratorium　on　sex；　you　can　focus　your　consciousness
on　fully　enjoying　every　here…and…now　experience。　You　may　wish　to　enjoy
just　massaging　each　other。　Since　your　consciousness　will　not　be　preoccupied
with　making　anything　happen　beyond　the　massage；　you　can　both　be
pletely　free　to　thoroughly　experience　the　here　and　nowness　of　the
massage。　You　are　consciously　reprogramming　yourself　to　bee　nonaddicted
to　the　experience　of　orgasm。　You　begin　to　realize　that　this　tensecond
orgasm　that　sex　offers　can　dominate　too　large　a　part　of　your
Conscious…awareness。　It　gives　a　hollowness　to　hours　and　hours　of　your
precious　consciousness　　keeping　you　out　of　the　here　and　now　　and　making
you　unable　to　fully　tune　in　to　the　full　reality　that　is　available　to　you　every
moment　of　your　life。　You　begin　to　see　that　the　experience　of　orgasm　is　not
worth　the　many　hours　per　day　during　which　it　may　deprive　you　of　tuning　in　to
everything　around　you　through　multichannel　perception。
But　a　beautiful　thing　about　consciousness　growth　is　that　when　you　give　it　up；
you　get　it　all　back。　For　you　are　not　training　yourself　to　reject　orgasm　　that
would　be　substituting　one　addiction　for　another。　That　which　you　emotionally
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