letters to his son, 1748-第8节
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tion； indeed； which is the consequence of matrimony； makes them either love or hate more； accordingly as they respectively deserve it； but that would be exactly the same between any man and woman who lived together without being married。
These and many other commonplace reflections upon nations or professions in general （which are at least as often false as true）； are the poor refuge of people who have neither wit nor invention of their own； but endeavor to shine in company by second…hand finery。 I always put these pert jackanapes out of countenance； by looking extremely grave； when they expect that I should laugh at their pleasantries； and by saying WELL； AND SO； as if they had not done； and that the sting were still to come。 This disconcerts them； as they have no resources in themselves； and have but one set of jokes to live upon。 Men of parts are not reduced to these shifts； and have the utmost contempt for them； they find proper subjects enough for either useful or lively conversations； they can be witty without satire or commonplace； and serious without being dull。 The frequentation of courts checks this petulancy of manners； the good… breeding and circumspection which are necessary； and only to be learned there； correct those pertnesses。 I do not doubt but that you are improved in your manners by the short visit which you have made at Dresden； and the other courts； which I intend that you shall be better acquainted with； will gradually smooth you up to the highest polish。 In courts； a versatility of genius and softness of manners are absolutely necessary； which some people mistake for abject flattery； and having no opinion of one's own； whereas it is only the decent and genteel manner of maintaining your own opinion； and possibly of bringing other people to it。 The manner of doing things is often more important than the things themselves； and the very same thing may become either pleasing or offensive； by the manner of saying or doing it。 'Materiam superabat opus'； is often said of works of sculpture； where though the materials were valuable； as silver； gold； etc。； the workmanship was still more so。 This holds true； applied to manners； which adorn whatever knowledge or parts people may have； and even make a greater impression upon nine in ten of mankind； than the intrinsic value of the materials。 On the other hand； remember； that what Horace says of good writing is justly applicable to those who would make a good figure in courts； and distinguish themselves in the shining parts of life； 'Sapere est principium et fons'。 A man who； without a good fund of knowledge and parts； adopts a court life； makes the most ridiculous figure imaginable。 He is a machine； little superior to the court clock； and； as this points out the hours； he points out the frivolous employment of them。 He is； at most； a comment upon the clock； and according to the hours that it strikes； tells you now it is levee； now dinner； now supper time； etc。 The end which I propose by your education； and which （IF YOU PLEASE） I shall certainly attain； is to unite in you all the knowledge of a scholar with the manners of a courtier； and to join； what is seldom joined by any of my countrymen； books and the world。 They are commonly twenty years old before they have spoken to anybody above their schoolmaster； and the fellows of their college。 If they happen to have learning； it is only Greek and Latin； but not one word of modern history； or modern languages。 Thus prepared； they go abroad； as they call it； but； in truth； they stay at home all that while； for being very awkward； confoundedly ashamed； and not speaking the languages； they go into no foreign company； at least none good； but dine and sup with one another only at the tavern。 Such examples； I am sure； you will not imitate； but even carefully avoid。 You will always take care to keep the best company in the place where you are； which is the only use of traveling： and （by the way） the pleasures of a gentleman are only to be found in the best company； for that not which low company； most falsely and impudently； call pleasure； is only the sensuality of a swine。
I ask hard and uninterrupted study from you but one year more； after that； you shall have every day more and more time for your amusements。 A few hours each day will then be sufficient for application； and the others cannot be better employed than in the pleasures of good company。 Adieu。
LETTER XXXIX
LONDON； May 31； O。 S。 1748。
DEAR BOY： I received yesterday your letter of the 16th； N。 S。； and have； in consequence of it； written this day to Sir Charles Williams； to thank him for all the civilities he has shown you。 Your first setting out at court has； I find； been very favorable； and his Polish Majesty has distinguished you。 I hope you received that mark of distinction with respect and with steadiness； which is the proper behavior of a man of fashion。 People of a low； obscure education cannot stand the rays of greatness； they are frightened out of their wits when kings and great men speak to them； they are awkward； ashamed； and do not know what nor how to answer； whereas； 'les honnetes gens' are not dazzled by superior rank： they know； and pay all the respect that is due to it； but they do it without being disconcerted； and can converse just as easily with a king as with any one of his subjects。 That is the great advantage of being introduced young into good company； and being used early to converse with one's superiors。 How many men have I seen here； who； after having had the full benefit of an English education； first at school； and then at the university； when they have been presented to the king； did not know whether they stood upon their heads or their heels！ If the king spoke to them； they were annihilated； they trembled； endeavored to put their hands in their pockets； and missed them； let their hats fall； and were ashamed to take them up； and in short； put themselves in every attitude but the right； that is； the easy and natural one。 The characteristic of a well… bred man； is to converse with his inferiors without insolence； and with his superiors with respect and ease。 He talks to kings without concern； he trifles with women of the first condition with familiarity； gayety； but respect； and converses with his equals； whether he is acquainted with them or not； upon general common topics； that are not； however； quite frivolous； without the least concern of mind or awkwardness of body： neither of which can appear to advantage； but when they are perfectly easy。
The tea…things； which Sir Charles Williams has given you； I would have you make a present of to your Mamma； and send them to her by Duval when he returns。 You owe her not only duty； but likewise great obligations for her care and tenderness； and； consequently； cannot take too many opportunities of showing your gratitude。
I am impatient to receive your account of Dresden； and likewise your answers to the many questions that I asked you。
Adieu for this time； and God bless you！
LETTER XL
LONDON； May 27； O。 S。 1748。
DEAR BOY： This and the two next years make so important a period of your life； that I cannot help repeating to you my exhortations； my commands； and （what I hope will be still more prevailing with you than either） my earnest entreaties； to employ them well。 Every moment that you now lose； is so much character and advantage lost； as； on the other hand； every moment that you now employ usefully； is so much time wisely laid out； at most prodigious interest。 These two years must lay the foundations of all the knowledge that you will ever have； you may build upon them afterward as much as you please； but it will be too late to lay any new ones。 Let me beg of you； therefore； to grudge no labor nor pains to acquire； in time； that stock of knowledge； without which you never can rise； but must make a very insignificant figure in the world。 Consider your own situation； you have not the advantage of rank or fortune to bear you up； I shall； very probably； be out of the world before you can properly be said to be in it。 What then will you have to rely on but your own merit？ That alone must raise you； and that alone will raise you； if you have but enough of it。 I have often heard and read of oppressed and unrewarded merit； but I have oftener （I might say always） seen great merit make its way； and meet with its reward； to a certain degree at least； in spite of all difficulties。 By merit； I mean the moral virtues； knowledge； and manners； as to the moral virtues； I say nothing to you； they speak best for themselves； nor can I suspect that they want any recommendation with you； I will therefore only assure you； that without them you will be most unhappy。
As to knowledge； I have often told you； and I am persuaded you are thoroughly convinced； how absolutely necessary it is to you； whatever your destination may be。 But as knowledge has a most extensive meaning； and as the life of man is not long enough to acquire； nor his mind capable of entertaining and digesting； all parts of knowledge； I will point out those to which you should particularly apply； and which； by application； you may make yourself perfect master of。 Classical knowledge； t
