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饱满的玉米粒的玉米穗…而我的邻居们收获的只是晒黑的空壳。
尽管过去的播种可能没有达到50%的收获期望,而且将来也可能是这样,但我仍然能靠着在旱季繁茂生长的庄稼而生存下去。
?第十一篇:What is Your Recovery Rate? 你的恢复速率是多少?
What is Your Recovery Rate?
What is your recovery rate? How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviors that upset you? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? The longer it takes you to recover; the more influence that incident has on your actions; and the less able you are to perform to your personal best。 In a nutshell; the longer it takes you to recover; the weaker you are and the poorer your performance。
You are well aware that you need to exercise to keep the body fit and; no doubt; accept that a reasonable measure of health is the speed in which your heart and respiratory system recovers after exercise。 Likewise the faster you let go of an issue that upsets you; the faster you return to an equilibrium; the healthier you will be。 The best example of this behavior is found with professional sportspeople。 They know that the faster they can forget an incident or missd opportunity and get on with the game; the better their performance。 In fact; most measure the time it takes them to overe and forget an incident in a game and most reckon a recovery rate of 30 seconds is too long!
Imagine yourself to be an actor in a play on the stage。 Your aim is to play your part to the best of your ability。 You have been given a script and at the end of each sentence is a ful stop。 Each time you get to the end of the sentence you start a new one and although the next sentence is related to the last it is not affected by it。 Your job is to deliver each sentence to the best of your ability。
Don’t live your life in the past! Learn to live in the present; to overe the past。 Stop the past from influencing your daily life。 Don’t allow thoughts of the past to reduce your personal best。 Stop the past from interfering with your life。 Learn to recover quickly。
Remember: Rome wasn’t built in a day。 Reflect on your recovery rate each day。 Every day before you go to bed; look at your progress。 Don’t lie in bed saying to you; “I did that wrong。” “I should have done better there。” No。 look at your day and note when you made an effort to place a full stop after an incident。 This is a success。 You are taking control of your life。 Remember this is a step by step process。 This is not a make…over。 You are undertaking real change here。 Your aim: reduce the time spent in recovery。
The way forward?
Live in the present。 Not in the precedent。
译文:
你的恢复速率是多少?
你的恢复速率是多少?你需要多长时间才能从让你烦恼的行为中恢复?几分钟?几小时?几天?几星期?你需要的恢复时间越长,那个事件对你的影响越大,你也就越不能做到最好。简言之,你的恢复时间越长,你就越软弱,你的表现也就越差劲。
你充分意识到,要保持身体健康你需要锻炼,并且你无疑会接受,你的心脏和呼吸系统在锻炼后的恢复速度是衡量健康的一个合理尺度。同样,你越快摆脱使你烦恼的问题,越快恢复平静,你就越健康。此类行为的最好典范是专业运动员。他们知道,越快忘记一件事或失去的机会而好好比赛,他们的发挥就越好。实际上,大多数运动员会佰自己克服并忘记比赛中一个事件所需的时间,而且大多数人都认为30秒的恢复时间太长了!
想象自己是一位站在舞台上的戏剧赏。你的目标是尽全力扮演好你的角色。你已经拿到了剧本,而剧本中的每句话都以句号结尾。每次你念到一个句子的末尾,你就会开始一个新的句子。尽管下一句和上一句有关联,但并不受它的影响。你的工作是尽力说好每句台词。
不要生活在过去!要学会生活在现在,学会克服过去;不要让过去影响你的日常生活;不要让过去的思想妨碍你做到最好;不要让过去干扰你的生活;学会快速恢复。
记住,罗马不是一日建成的。每天都反思自己的恢复速率;每天上床睡觉前,都看看自己的进步;不要躺在床上对自己说:“我那个做错了。”“我应该做到更好。”不要那样做;回想自己的一天,并注意努力给某个事件画上句号的时刻。这就是一个成功,你在控制自己的生活。记住这是一个循序渐进的过程。这不是简单的修修补补。你正在进行的是真正的改变,你的目标是减少用在恢复上的时间。
将来该怎么做呢?
生活在现在,而不是从前。
?第十二篇:Clear Your Mental Space 清理心灵的空间
Clear Your Mental Space
Think about the last time you felt a negative emotion…like stress; anger; or frustration。 What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity? Was your mind cluttered with thoughts? Or was it paralyzed; unable to think?
The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time; or you feel angry or frustrated; stop。 Yes; that’s right; stop。 Whatever you’re doing; stop and sit for one minute。 While you’re sitting there; pletely immerse yourself in the negative emotion。
Allow that emotion to consume you。 Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion。 Don’t cheat yourself here。 Take the entire minute…but only one minute…to do nothing else but feel that emotion。
When the minute is over; ask yourself; “Am I wiling to keep holding on to this negative emotion as I go through the rest of the day?”
Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed in the emotion and really fell it; you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly。
If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer; that is OK。 Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion。
When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion; ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day。 If not; take a deep breath。 As you exhale; release all that negativity with your breath。
This exercise seems simple…almost too simple。 But; it is very effective。 By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt; you are dealing with the emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not to feel it。 You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs。 When you immerse yourself in the emotion; and realize that it is only emotion; it loses its control。 You can clear your head and proceed with your task。
Try it。 Next time you’re in the middle of a negative emotion; give yourself the space to feel the emotion and see what happens。 Keep a piece of paper with you that says the following:
Stop。 Immerse for one minute。 Do I want to keep this negativity? Breath deep; exhale; release。 Move on!
This will remind you of the steps to the process。 Remember; take the time you need to really immerse yourself in the emotion。 Then; when you feel you’ve felt it enough; release it…really let go of it。 You will be surprised at how quickly you can move on from a negative situation and get to what you really want to do!
译文:
清理心灵的空间
想下你最近一次感受到的消极情绪,例如压力,愤怒或挫折。当你处于那种消极情绪时你在想些什么?是充满了混乱的思绪?还是陷于麻木,无法思考?
下次当你发现自己处于非常紧张的状态时,或是你感到气愤或受挫时,停下来。是的,对,停下来。不管你在做什么,停下来坐上一分钟。坐着的时候,让自己完全沉浸在那种消极情绪之中。
让那种消极情绪吞噬你,给自己一分钟的时间去真切地体会那种情绪,不要欺骗自己。花整整一分钟的时间 – 但只有一分钟 – 去体会那种情绪,别的什么也不要做。
当一分钟结束时,问自己:“我是否想在今天余下的时间里继续保持这种消极情绪?”
一旦你允许自己完全沉浸在那种情绪当中并真切体会到它,你就会惊奇地发现那种情绪很快就消失了。
如果你觉得还需要点时间来保持那种情绪,没关系,再给自己一分钟的时间去体会它。
如果你觉得自己已经充分体会了那种情绪,那就问自己是否愿意在今天余下的时间里继续保持这种消极情绪。如果不愿意,那就深呼吸。呼气的时候,把所有的消极情绪都释放出去。
这个方法似乎很简单 – 几乎是太过简单了,但却非常有效。通过给自己空间真正体会消极情绪,你是在处理这种情绪,而不是将其压制下去然后尽量不加理会。通过给予消极情绪所需的空间和关注,你实际上是在消解其力量。当你沉浸在那种情绪之中,并且明白它只是一种情绪时,你就摆脱了它的控制。你可以清理头脑并继续做事。
你下次笼罩消极情绪时,试一下这种做法,给自己一点空间来体会那种情绪并看看会发生什么。随身带一张写着如下字句的纸条:
停下来。沉浸一分钟。我想保持这种消极情绪吗?深吸气,呼气,放松。继续做事!
这会提醒你该怎样去做。记住,要花你所需要的时间去真正沉浸于那种情绪之中。然后,当你感到自己已经充分体会到了它。你会惊奇地发现,你很快就能摆脱消极情绪,并开始做你真正想做的事情!
?第十三篇:Be Happy 快乐
Be Happy!
“The days that make us happy make us wise。”John Masefield
when I first read this line by England’s Poet Laureate; it startled me。 What did Masefield mean? Without thinking about it much; I had always assumed that the opposite was true。 But his sober assurance was arresting。 I could not forget it。
Finally; I seemed to grasp his meaning and realized that here was a profound observation。 The wisdom that happiness makes possible lies in clear perception; not fogged by anxiety nor dimmed by despair and boredom; and without the blind spots caused by fear。
Active happiness…not mere satisfaction or contentment …often es suddenly; like an April shower or the unfolding of a bud。 Then you discover what kind of wisdom has acpanied it。 The grass is greener; bird songs are sweeter; the shortings of your friends are more understandable and more forgivable。 Happiness is like a pair of eyeglasses correcting your spiritual vision。
Nor are the insights of happiness limited to what is near around you。 Unhappy; with your thoughts turned in upon your emotional woes; your vision is cut